Safe Dating Guide
Hey there, we’re thrilled to have you as a part of our community! Dor is a safe dating app and your safety and well-being are our top priorities. Think of us as a sibling, here to provide some guidance and tips to make your dating journey as enjoyable and secure as possible.
Disclaimer: These tips have been given bonafide to help you and these may or may not work. You agree that you will not hold Dor or AR Networking & Co responsible if you rely on any of the tips and they don’t work for you. AR Networking & Co gives no warranties or guarantees for these tips.
Online Safety
- Guard Your Personal Information: Never share personal information, such as your Aadhar number, home or work address, details about your daily routine, etc. or any such details of your family members with people you don’t know.
- Protect Yourself Against Financial Frauds: Never send money, even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Never share information that could be used to access your financial accounts. If another user asks you for money, report it to us immediately.
- Stay on the Platform: Keep conversations on Dor while you’re getting to know someone. Users with bad intentions often try to move the conversation to text, messaging apps, email, or phone right away. Avoid sharing your social media details with anyone before you get to know them and feel safe enough.
- Be Wary of Long Distance and Overseas Relationships: Watch out for scammers who claim to be from your country but are stuck somewhere else, especially if they ask for financial help to return home. Be wary of anyone who will not meet in person or talk on a phone/video call—they may not be who they say they are. If someone is avoiding your questions or pushing for a serious relationship without meeting or getting to know you first — that’s a red flag.
- Report All Suspicious and Offensive Behaviour: You know when someone’s crossed the line and when they do, we want to know about it. Block and report anyone who violates our terms. Here are some examples of violations:
- Requests for money or donations
- Underage users
- Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
- Inappropriate or harmful behaviour during, on or after meeting in person
- Fraudulent profiles
- Spam or solicitation including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services
- Selling sexual services
- Sharing inappropriate content like nude photos/videos or pornography.
You can report any concerns about suspicious behaviour from any user’s profile page or by emailing us at [email protected].
- Never Share Your Account Details: Never use someone else’s device or a public network to log into your account. Dor employees will never ask you for your account information other than your registered phone number or email — if anyone asks you for account information, report it immediately. Do not share your OTP with anyone, not even Dor employees.
Meeting in Person
- Don’t Rush: Take your time and get to know the other person before agreeing to meet or chat off Dor. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to screen for any red flags or personal dealbreakers.
- Meet in Public Places: Meet for the first few times in a populated, public place — never at your home, your date’s home, or any other private location. It’s always safer to be around people. If your date pressures you to go to a private location, end the date.
- Tell Someone You Trust: Inform a close friend or family member about your plans, including the location and time of your date. Share your date’s profile with them. Have your phone charged and with you at all times.
- Take Someone With You: We know it might not be the most romantic date but when meeting someone new for the first few times, it would be safer to take a friend with you.
- Be in Control of Your Transportation: Be in control of how you get to and from your date so that you can leave whenever you want. If you’re driving yourself, it’s a good idea to have a backup plan such as a ride-share app or a friend to pick you up.
- Know Your Limits: Be aware of the effects of alcohol or other substances on you — they can impair your judgment and your alertness. If your date tries to pressure you to drink more than you’re comfortable with, hold your ground and end the date.
- Don’t Leave Drinks or Personal Items Unattended: Know where your drink comes from and know where it is at all times — only accept drinks poured or served directly from the bartender or server. Many substances that are slipped into drinks to facilitate sexual assault are odourless, colourless, and tasteless. Also, keep your phone, purse, wallet, and anything containing personal information on you at all times.
- Trust Your Instincts: If something doesn’t feel right during the date, it’s okay to excuse yourself and leave. Your safety is paramount. And if your instincts are telling you something is off or you feel unsafe, ask the bartender or server for help.
- Consent Is Mandatory: Always prioritize consent and respect boundaries. No means no, and it’s important to communicate openly about your comfort levels.
Sexual Health and Consent
- Protection: If you choose to be intimate, make sure to use protection to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unintended pregnancies. You should be aware of STIs like herpes or HPV that can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact. The risk of contracting some STIs can be reduced through vaccination.
- Regular Health Checkups: It’s essential to get regular sexual health checkups. Knowing your status is a responsible and caring choice for yourself and your partner. Not all STIs show symptoms, and you don’t want to be in the dark about your status.
- Consent Is Ongoing: Verbal communication can help you and your partner ensure that you respect each other’s boundaries. Consent should be freely given, informed, enthusiastic, and can be withdrawn at any time. Intimacy or sex is never owed to anyone. Never pressure or coerce anyone into any activity. Do not proceed if your partner seems uncomfortable or unsure, or if your partner is unable to consent due to the effects of alcohol.
Helpful Resources and Helpline Numbers
Organisations (in India) | Contact Number |
Police | 100 |
National Women Helpline (Women in distress) | 1091 |
Women Helpline – Emergency Response Support System | 181 |
National Commission for Women (NCW) | 011-2694 2369 011-2694 4754 |
National Commission for Women (NCW) (Domestic violence 24×7 helpline for Sexual Violence and harassment) | +91 78271 70170 |
Student / Child Helpline | 1098 |
Cybercrime Helpline | 1930 |
Mental Health Support (KIRAN) | 1800-599-0019 |
National AIDS Control Organization | 1097 |
Sexual Health TARSHI – Talking about Reproductive & Sexual Health Issues Helpline and Counseling Services | 011-2437 2229 |
Parivar Seva Sanstha | 011-2433 5055 |
Family Planning Association of India | +91 22 4086 3101 |
Remember, your safety and well-being are non-negotiable. If at any point you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, reach out to the appropriate authorities or support organizations. We’re here to support you and ensure that your experience on our app is positive and secure.
Stay safe, stay respectful, and enjoy building meaningful connections with like-minded individuals.
Warm regards,
AR Networking & Co